Hearing and Saying "NO"
"When a girl says "NO" she is just playing hard to get!" WRONG!
"NO" means "NO" in ANY situation, and you must listen to it! - even if you are not sure if she/he really means it.
"If it's against her will, it's against the law," it's
RAPE.
If you respect someone enough let
her take control of her life, it is more powerful than you trying to control her life (that's what
a Man of Strength would do). You get respect by giving respect.
Alcohol, Drugs and Sexual Assault
Alcohol
is the most commonly used date rape drug. When you're under the influence
you cannot give consent; for that reason, having sex with someone when they are high or too wasted
to make a decision is
RAPE.
It is illegal. Also, if you drink, you may lose your ability to
make the right decisions
and it can lower your inhibitions. You may regret it later! The consequences of
drunken sex can be serious. Drunken sex increases the risk of unplanned pregnancies and sexually
transmitted diseases such as herpes, chlamydia and HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Other
date rape drugs
include Rohypnol (roofies), GHB (liquid ecstacy) and Ketamine (special K). Sometimes,
guys slip these types of drugs into a girl's drink in order to have sex with them. Remember, if
she is under the influence of drugs she cannot give
consent
and it is RAPE!
A Man of Strength would stop a guy who gets a girl drunk or high to have sex with her -
Be a Man of Strength,
don't let it happen!
Sexual Harassment
Flirting with the opposite sex is common and healthy, especially among teens.
But, some teens have trouble deciding between what's respectful and what's unwanted behavior.
Sexual harrasment
is an unwanted and unwelcome physical or verbal advance that is sexual in nature.
It is offensive and leaves people feeling degraded and threatened. About 80% of teens experience
sexual harassment. Men of strength are respectful! And girls like respect anyway, who doesn't?
Become an ally to the women in your life. If you know a guy who is disrespectful, sexist or
abusive to girls and women, don't remain silent! Don't look the other way! Do the right thing
and take a stand. If you feel comfortable, try to talk to him about his behavior. If you don't
know what to do, consult a friend, a parent, a teacher, or a counselor.
Statutory Rape
Dating is a healthy part of being a teen but things can be trouble when there
is a big difference in ages. In California, any type of sexual activity between a minor, someone
under the age of 18 years old, and someone over the age of 18 years old is statutory rape.
In California 18 is the legal age of
consent.
Online Safety
Cyber Sexual Predators are criminals who pose as children or teens on the Internet
to hunt, interact, entice, invite, persuade or molest their victims. They lurk in the shadows from
the privacy of their own home. They are expert manipulators and create friendships or relationships
with the victims to gradually acquire their confidence to try to convince them to meet in person.
Don't let online strangers trick you into thinking of them as real-life friends. Most importantly,
NEVER meet with someone you met online. If you think you are safe because you are a guy, think again!
Also, protect yourself by keeping your information private online! "Sickos" can skim your profile
to find information ("clues") and find things they can use to harm you or others you care about -
Names, addresses, telephone numbers, school/work place, class schedule, etc. - Ask your friends
to keep their information private too!
When The Guy is the Victim
When we see images of men in the Media, men are always strong, invincible, cool,
and in control. In spite of these stereotypes, men of all ages, sizes, strengths, looks,
personalities and sexual orientations are victims of sexual assault. Yes, guys are raped
and sexually abused. Males are sexually assaulted both as adults and as children. If a man
was raped by another man, he might start questioning his sexual orientation and his manhood.
This reaction is normal, and is one of the reasons why men are less likely to report a sexual
assault. Sexual violence has nothing to do with sexual orientation or sexual attraction.
It is about domination and power. Just because another guy rapes a guy, it doesn't mean he's
queer, weak or less of a man - no matter how the victim's body reacted during the attack. And
if the victim is gay, it doesn't mean that he is to blame for the attack. No one asks or
deserves to be raped regardless of gender.The assault is never the survivor's fault!
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